5 steps to improve your relationships

5 steps to improve your relationships

So you really care for this relationship but it is not doing its best. You try for something and you end up arguing or walking away? It surprises you how things can be so wrong with the most important person in your life?
Here’s what you can do to improve the important relationships in your life:

1. STEP BACK: When we are too close to the relationship we are not able to see what is wrong with it. Usually when things go wrong our instinct is to get closer to the problem and thus losing sight of the bigger picture. So step back. Do not try to fix or improve anything for a little while and you will be surprised to see some positivity returning. May be you are too possessive? Too controlling? Too idealistic? Harbor unrealistic expectations? It can be anything but if things improve when you back off it means you need to look inside.

2. LOOK INSIDE: So often we get into relationships with the blinds of our expectations so tightly tied that all we do is try desperately to fit the other person within the confines of these expectations. And when we feel resistance, we feel everything is going wrong with the relationship. Look inside. What are you expecting out of the relationship? Are you trying to change others too much? Do you know what you are expecting from the relationship and for yourself? And how much are you giving?

3. FOCUS ON INDIVIDUALITY: Every person in unique and so are you. We love the company of some people and we love to do things with them, but to expect that we will think and feel and want alike all the time is inviting trouble. We need to cherish our individual personalities in order to be happy and bloom and we need to give the same space to the other to be happy and bloom. Are you spending too much time together? Do you have different friends or is it all together?

4. COMMUNICATE: It is an art to talk in a way that the other person is willing to listen and be open to listen to the other’s perspectives. Most issues can be solved by a healthy regular communication. Let them know. It is not about complaining. When you can feel free to talk without being overwhelmed by negative emotions, the other would also be willing to listen and understand. We are not mind readers, get into the habit of asking and sharing. And practice the concept agreeing to disagree.

5. SEEK HELP: Sometimes we are not able to either express ourselves clearly or to understand the other. We need a mature, unbiased, nonjudgmental person to help us see what exactly is going wrong and then to work on it. Seek out a counselor. Both of you can get a nonthreatening environment to express yourself and it is sometimes easier to reach out to the other through someone.

Our relationships are important. To cherish them over lifetime we need to take responsibility and take action. Try these steps and let me know if I can help you some more.

   
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Swapnil Agrawal

11 February 2018
Thanks for sharing... Choti choti baatein are soo helpfull

Balwant D K

10 February 2018
Nice article Useful in maintaining good relationship

K.K.Datta

09 February 2018
It is very useful article. Good suggestions about keeping the relationships alive. Worth sharing.

Mohan Pande

06 February 2018
Extremely practical and very simply Expressed.I think we can consciously practise certain Remedial tips by Dr.Sapna.USP of the article is the Clarity of Thoughts which are based on Observations. All in All..Sumptuous Food for Thought ..!!!

Devdatt Chaure

06 February 2018
Excellent approach towards conscious and willing management
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Swapnil Agrawal

11 February 2018
Thanks for sharing... Choti choti baatein are soo helpfull

Balwant D K

10 February 2018
Nice article Useful in maintaining good relationship

K.K.Datta

09 February 2018
It is very useful article. Good suggestions about keeping the relationships alive. Worth sharing.

Mohan Pande

06 February 2018
Extremely practical and very simply Expressed.I think we can consciously practise certain Remedial tips by Dr.Sapna.USP of the article is the Clarity of Thoughts which are based on Observations. All in All..Sumptuous Food for Thought ..!!!

Devdatt Chaure

06 February 2018
Excellent approach towards conscious and willing management

Shubhangi Shinde

05 February 2018
Worth precious article , especially for those who lack in communication and come to their own conclusions which definitely leads to misunderstanding and wrong conception. Thanks man for sharing with us. It would be of great importance to share with my students.

Ruchir Mishra

05 February 2018
Another nice read. The importance of proper communication. It teaches us how we forget to do simple things

Suresh Pandilwar

05 February 2018
Nicely explained. It helps Everyone to refresh their thinking pattern

Dr pinak Dande

04 February 2018
Practical good steps

Aniket Bhadke

04 February 2018
Helpful

LAXMAN KANKUBKAR

04 February 2018
Nice one

Meena mishra

04 February 2018
Very Nice N Worth Following!

Jagdish Thakral

04 February 2018
Very practical solutions.Wonderful

Dr ShilpaJichkar

04 February 2018
Very nice

Dr ShilpaJichkar

04 February 2018
Very nice

NANDKISHOR SALUNKE

04 February 2018
Nice one

Yashashree

04 February 2018
Doable solutions , great

Shashank Anil Pawgi

04 February 2018
Nice Steps

SARVANI

04 February 2018
Nice one

Anil s.Pawar

04 February 2018
अतिशय सकारात्मक आणि मार्गदर्शक

Manjusha vishwekar

04 February 2018
Very nice and helpful article .Great going

NKGARG

04 February 2018
like the article good can solve interpersonal relations .nicely framed easy to act

Shabina

04 February 2018
Hi mam Thanks for putting down in words so beautifully

हेमंत गडकरी

04 February 2018
खूप छान

D Narayanan

04 February 2018
Dear Sapna... Another feather in your cap....Nice informatic article....I do feel knowing oneself and frequency in communication between partners is the best tools for happy relationship....Baat karo khush raho....Thanks for your article.
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