Who are you really? When you are at home at the end of the day and you are alone for a moment, who are you? It has been suggested that your true self is who you are when no one else is looking.
Are you the bright, energetic person you portrayed at school today, or are you the shy, sullen person you portrayed at a program last week? Only you can answer that question. You may not even be able to answer it right now, but be rest assured, true self is personal, true self is deep, true self is complex, a true self is important. Are you your true self, or are you the self that others want you to be? Do you behave so that others will accept you, love you, invite you places, and call you, or do you behave so that you are happy with yourself? Of more relevance here is the question- Are you making an informed career choice because you want to or you are doing it for someone else? Your self-esteem is damaged when you try to be someone or do something for the sake of others.
Psychologically, most problems in the world related to conflicts whether within family, between friends, at work place, within a community or internationally- most of them arise from deep-rooted low self- esteem. People with a healthy self esteem hardly seem to get into trivial conflicts and arguments. They seem to be comfortable with themselves and with their surroundings. In situations of stress and conflict they seem to know very clearly as to what they want and thus do not indulge into anything beyond.
Students who are helped to understand who they are and what kind of careers they should choose based on their knowledge of themselves, often evolve into better adjusted, self assured adults who love their jobs irrespective of the associated problems. These are the people who are contented even in the midst of the ever challenging and ever changing material world. And all this only because they know who they are and what they want.
Your search for healthier self-esteem is essential for your life. Yes, your life may depend on how well you think of yourself. Your self-esteem determines how well you treat yourself, how well you treat others, how you view the world, how you view yourself in the world, how you act in the world, and how you take care of your own basic needs that are required for survival.
Many experts believe that moving toward healthier self-esteem requires two things: setting high, realistic goals, and acting in some fashion to have a degree of success in reaching those goals. Don’t select so called ‘popular’ careers just because some other people believe it is the best one for you. Do your self-analysis. First know yourself thoroughly. Next, research for the various available career options that match with your personality and interests. Take help from career experts if needed and then base your decision on that knowledge and information. Then set the right goals when you know why you are doing what you are doing. It may not seem to be the easiest goal to achieve, but if it is your goal you would put in your best and enjoy the journey as you inch towards your goals.